So, you’ve spent months and months – maybe even years – going through dating hell.  You’re convinced that all the truly good/real men (or women) in your age bracket are either taken or dead!  And then, just when you’ve given up and prepared for a life of periods of celibacy punctuated by catch as catch can booty calls, he/she appears from out of the blue.  And  you’re convinced that the old saying about good things happening when you least expect them is true.  You’ve found your Holy Grail!  The more time you spend together, the deeper you fall in love, and you know that this is “the one”.  And then, from out of the woodwork, the ghosts of relationships past appear.  You start receiving calls and emails from people you haven’t heard from in years.  And they all want YOU!  And not just in a friendly way.  It’s as if the universe knows that you’re ready to settle down and is giving you a final exam on commitment.  Testing your feelings and integrity, and your partner’s trust in you.  Some people ace the exam with flying colors – for others it’s not so easy.   So, I have to ask – how many of you have experienced this phenomenon?  It can’t only be me…