When my lover, best friend , confidant and intended spouse left to travel back to his abode, “take care of my heart” were my parting words to him. After all, when we part he does take a part of me with him. Maybe it sounds corny but, in truth, if you really love a person that’s what happens. I can’t help but wonder how many of us feel that way but never say it. How many opportunities to express our true feelings go by and are never offered a chance for a replay? If life has taught me anything, it is this – never let someone you care about leave your presence without telling them how you feel. Heaven forbid it will be your last chance to tell them so – we all hate to think about that sort of scenario. But I have found that there is a real satisfaction to expressing your feelings, whether it be to a child, a parent, a lover or just a good friend. Of course, many people decline to do so…primarily because they fear rejection. They worry that they might be perceived as being too emotional or perhaps their feelings won’t be returned in kind. Well, guess what? If that’s the way the other person perceives you or if they don’t feel the same way, wouldn’t you want to know about it? Do you really want to be spending your time and energy on someone who doesn’t appreciate it? I sure don’t. My man has a saying – one that I’ve adopted and that I feel should be in everyone’s arsenal. Here it is – you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person (conversely, you can’t say the right thing to the wrong one). Feelings aren’t right or wrong – they just are. So stop worrying about the veracity of your feelings and start letting them show. The results may surprise you. In any case, you’ll discover where you stand with those you hold dear. And they may discover something about you, too!
- The Quick Change Artist
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